And here's my rant:
I'm freaking out. There are so many different pressures on me right now and I'm going crazy! I have no money whatsoever and I've grown to really despise money. I hate that it makes me rely so much on my parents right now-- living at home and whatnot-- when I just want to be independent.
I wonder: Can you answer this? Can a guy and a girl just be friends? Can they hang out and talk about common interests and just remain friends? I used to think they could, but I'm not so sure these days. It seems like everyone is getting engaged or getting married these days, and it used to have the sort of effect on me like I wanted to be in the same position. But now, I think it does the opposite effect. While I realize that if it's the RIGHT person and the right time, then yes, I'm sure it's wonderful. But for me, right now, I have so much to work on-- just issues with myself and I'm nowhere near where I'd like to be. Plus, I just can't even handle the idea of a relationship right now. It freaks me out having that much responsibility. I think I'd like to get away from Kansas after I graduate.
Anyway, back to my original question: I'm not sure about just being friends. It seems like whenever I try to be friends with guys, two things happen: Either I end up falling for him or he ends up falling for me, for whatever reason. I'm dealing with that in a couple different friendships right now and it sucks. How do you tell this person that although you enjoy their friendship and love talking with them that you don't think of them in a romantic way? I know what it's like to be rejected, and I hate the idea of causing that person that same kind of pain.
What's a girl to do?
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Definitely home from vacation
Posted by lanes at 10:45 AM
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2 comments:
Honesty is always the best policy, so just lay it down. But be sure they are actually interested in you before you reject them...or it's really awkward.
Also, even if now ISN'T the right time for you to be in a relationship, you should just get used to the fact that not everything in your life is going to be perfect when it finally is time. I used to think the same was as you. I wanted to kinda get things lined up and worked out in my personal life.
If I had done that...it never would have been time.
Thanks, Rachel. And you are right. I have to wrap my mind around the fact that not everything will be exactly perfect when it is the right time-- in regards to personal issues. However, I do think that before a person is in a relationship, they need to be at a spiritual level where they have the Lord as their absolute foundation. I feel like for me, He is my foundation and I realize that anything else pursued in this world is pointless, but at the same time, I still feel so stuck. I feel like I'm always constantly starting over, instead of growing and going upward. I feel like I keep coming back to the same place and beginning again, when I really want to be at a place where there is continual growth on a daily basis.
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